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Uncategorized Oct 30, 2019

Let’s talk about rejection, yuck! Nobody likes this word but now imagine it is a sign of something better to come for you 

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. ~Romans 8:28 

I had a prospect approach me about doing some work for their company and I was excited because I knew that I could do a stellar job. When it came time to negotiate the amount of money they were willing to pay it was so insulting I would have preferred that they just asked me to help them out free of charge. I declined to take the job because I felt rejected. I just shrugged it off. One thing I know for sure, is that if you get rejected (by a guy, a girl, a company or a family member) the good news is God has something better for you. It’s like you’re being protected because God may take something from you that you may rightfully deserve, but he may take it from you to do a “trade up”. It’s kind of like trading in a leased car for the newer version. There is always something better! The company that rejected didn’t see my value by paying me what I was worth never did come back. To my advantage I was given other jobs that were 10x the amount and a fraction of the time and effort.

I took a  yoga class and the instructor said something profound. She said if you couldn’t breathe and smile at the same time, pull out of the pose. Sometimes in pulling yourself out of a stressful situation you can gain more perspective.  Lets release any fear and fill up on peace 

I’ve been told early on in my career that you are never paid what you are worth; you are paid based on how well you negotiate. So, I would ask you, what are you negotiating in your life? Are you settling for a relationship that you know isn’t really that great for the sake of a warm body and a full calendar? Are you negotiating (Trading time for money) even though you hate what you are doing? Are you settling for a lazy body because you’ve failed at every diet and thus gave up? Maybe you’re negotiating on someone’s faults and not recognizing their value and dialoging over meaningless things.  Lets negotiate for something even better!

One of the most powerful techniques in negotiation is certainty. It’s been said, “The power in all relationships lies in who cares less.” But I would argue that power isn’t happiness and sometimes it’s in caring more for another person that brings real joy.

So, if you’ve been rejected, just know that rejection is God’s protection and he always does a “trade up” in value.  It’s a mindset that will get you through life’s valleys, Keep your heart right in all things!  I train sales professionals to trade up their mindset and believe, “eventually everybody buys” why? because they DO!  I have hundreds of examples when someone didn’t buy, mostly  they didn’t buy when I needed a paycheck but they came back and bought 6 months or a year or even 5 years later. It’s dangerous to put your faith in your circumstances, because your circumstances can change so quickly.  Set your mindset and know that it might feel like you lost the battle, but have faith – you will win the war 

Psalm 23
The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside quiet waters.
He restores my soul;
He guides me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil, for you are with me;
Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the
Presence of my enemies;
You have anointed my head with oil;
My cup overflows.
Surely goodness and loving-kindness will
Follow me all the days of my life,
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.